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Six Lessons I’ve Learned In Six Years of Marriage

A newlywed recently said to me that they are considering a post-nuptial agreement because, “what if we change.” I hate to break it to you, but you’re going to change. Your life is going to change. Your financial situation will change. You will lose things or gain things that will change your life.

My Husband Bought a Coffee Table

Recently, my husband has picked up a really fun hobby of buying and selling mid-century modern furniture. It’s the coolest stuff, and I have been cherry-picking some of the best pieces including a cool coffee table. Then I interviewed Galey…

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  • Six Lessons that I have Learned in Six Years of Marriage
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6. Kids Change Everything
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I wanted kids, but I was really scared of the logistics of kids. How to give your children your time and money? How do you fit multiple car seats in a car? I am very aware of the fact that I can be a very selfish person, and I was concerned that I would not be very selfless when it came to my child since I was giving so much already to everyone and everything else. I’m a big believer that God provides, so when we were blessed with a child we figured out the logistics as well. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Something about having a child really gives your marriage new meaning and purpose, and gives you and your spouse a new focus that is so joyous. 
It makes it even more important to have quality time with your spouse. By raising a child (or many), your marriage has literally produced something that you and your spouse can together take so much pride in, but you have to take time to revel in it together. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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NOTE: that’s an old photo. 
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  • Maid of honor and best man speeches can always be extremely nerve-racking! We seriously considered doing them during our rehearsal dinner, but @dairingevents timed it really nicely by giving our band a break and doing speeches during that time. 
My dad knocked it out of the park, Brian Marisigan was so sincere and wonderful, and my sister did such an incredible job (with only a few tears). It was so moving and a very special part of the day.
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Getting those speeches on video was probably the best money that we spent. They were so personable and when we watch our wedding video it’s my favorite part! •
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  • My love of flowers definitely comes from my mom. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
I knew that she was going to want to take the lead on flowers for our wedding. I trusted her whole-heartedly to make the decisions on the flowers and the linens. I pretty much just told her to go for it once we hired @sheahopely who is incredibly talented. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
When I met Shea, she had a style that a few vendors openly said was different from the look I was going for...But her arrangements were so gorgeous.
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Shea brought such a beauty to the day with her incredible arrangements that fit perfectly with what we are going for. I was so, so pleased with her. And yet another vendor that my sister also used for her beautiful wedding for years later. 📸 @jennhopkinsphoto •
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5. You Have to Date Your Spouse
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I once heard that every married couple needs to have three things that they enjoy doing together that don’t involve a kitchen or bedroom. For us, it is escape rooms, movies, and going out to a fancy dinner.  It’s so easy to lose the romance. Making time to date your spouse and really connect with them on a romantic level is so important! 
Understanding your significant other’s love language is also super important so that you can always find time to make them feel special and loved while life is just zooming by. 
PS. In my wedding dreams, I knew that the first dance was going to be a big deal. It is very please that I had a fiancé who is willing to take dance lessons with me. We choreographed one of the hardest dances ever and probably bit off more than we can chew. Mike was freaking out moments before we went to do our dance and I had to talk him through the whole thing which is on video. 😂  Luckily, this final shot of our dance got everything that we are really looking for in that moment and this is one of my favorites photos of the day with all of our guests standing behind us. 💕
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  • I think my husband was most excited about the cake.

I spend hours designing this on my computer (what) and Classic Cakes nailed it. The fresh flowers were the real icing on the cake. Oh, and it was delicious. •
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  • The sorority sing. I looked forward to this moment from the moment that I joined @ufadpi. These women are my family, and welcoming @makinitrainka to our family in song is really just the best thing ever. 💕
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4. You Have to Check-In with Your Spouse
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There are days when I literally don’t have a meaningful conversation with my husband. We’re going in opposite directions and we’re trying to meet all of our obligations out of the house. We really have to make a concerted effort to check-in with each other. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
For us it looks like family dinner, and we try to eat dinner together every night. On top of that, I sometimes just call him at the office to have a meaningful conversation without distraction because it’s the easiest way to guarantee that we can really talk about something.
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I’m also a big fan of monthly family meetings. To just ask how your spouse what big things do they have coming up, what goals or plans do they have for themselves and for the family, and how are your kids doing because they may observe and see things that you don’t always see.
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And of course it’s always important to just say, “how are you doing?” Even though you’re together the majority of the day and you sleep in the same bed, you don’t always really know what is going on with your spouse unless you ask. Asking is the difference between a healthy marriage and a marriage that needs work. •
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